The One Thing You Need to Know About Social Media

I have said this before:

“Social media is social.”

Despite how often this is said by me and other social media types, people continue to miss the point of networking via social media. In case you missed it, the point is that it’s social.

What does “social media is social” mean exactly?

To be social is to interact, to listen as well as talk, to get to know others as they get to know you.

I know the dance of socializing doesn’t come naturally to everyone. The beauty of online interaction is that if you really kind of hate people you can mask your natural distaste for human interaction. If you are a bit shy, it’s easy to put your best foot forward and make connections that would be harder to make face-to-face. If you’e extroverted and not the best listener, you can work on that in the digital realm as well.

The key takeaways about being social on social media are A, listen more than you talk; B, express interest in others’ lives and work; C, respond to people who talk to you first; and D, it means do NOT immediately shove what you’re selling or doing at people that you don’t know–and who don’t know you.

Social media networking basics

If you keep the above in mind as you handle your business and personal social accounts, you’ll do well. You might want something more concrete, though, and this section is here to deliver useful steps you can start taking today.

  1. Choose two or three people you want to try to get to know. Maybe they’re in your field. Maybe in a similar field. Maybe you admire them and want to be a little more like them.Be realistic in your picks. You aren’t going to be BFFs with the most famous people in the world because you tweeted them once or twice. You want to choose people who are active on the social media platform you’re using, who respond to people, and are willing to network.Follow them.
  2. Choose two or three people who may be potential customers or readers. These can be anyone expressing interest in the kinds of things you do. You can use searches on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook to find people’s public posts about your topic.Follow them.
  3. With both cases, you’ll want to set aside time each day (even a few minutes if that’s all you have). With that time, you’ll read what those people have shared. If it’s appropriate, comment. If not, you can still throw a like their way. If you have a question that relates to the topic they are posting about, then ask in the comments/reply section.Be slow and gentle. See how things go. If you don’t get a response the first time, try again another day.People have to see your name multiple times before you’ll seem familiar to them, so don’t get discouraged. It can be a long process and given how busy and inundated some people are, it won’t always work.Don’t internalize this stuff. It is a big world out there and you’ll find success if you keep going. So keep going!

    On the other side of this coin, when they do reply, don’t gush or go nuts, either. One or two replies doesn’t mean you have made an intimate friendship.

    Beware the false sense of intimacy that can be fostered by social media. Be reserved and polite and give a person plenty of space and time to get to know you. Your interactions all add up to how people perceive you, also known as your “personal brand”.

  4. As you are comfortable, start the process over with  new people. Continue your efforts beyond the first few people you try it with.Growing an audience can be slow and tedious sometimes, but keep at it. There are more advanced moves for growing audience that I can discuss in another blog post, but this is a great way to get started. It will help you get a feel for networking and connecting online. Indeed, learning about networking and social interactions will help with your face-to-face interactions, too!
  5. If you feel a need to unfollow someone, please do. You don’t have to stay following the same people forever if the connection isn’t working out for you–for any reason.That said, don’t follow and unfollow people as a technique to grow your numbers. It’s against my own ethical code, and against the spirit of real networking. Techniques like those may work for short-term gains, but it will not grow you a loyal and lasting fan base/network.In a related vein, I talk more about why you shouldn’t buy followers here.
Those are the first steps as I see them. Have you ever tried this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments or through Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.


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Fall Workshops: First Lead-Up Exercise for Twitter

Hello again, everyone! I have two social media for authors workshops coming in September, one in Pickering and one in Brampton. In preparation I have exercises participants can work on over the summer. They will then bring the results with them to the workshop on the day they attend.

Since I am doing this in conjunction with BeNovel Marketing Services, the exercise is hosted on its site. Go take a look, and if you are in or have friends in the GTA, please share this with writers you think may be interested. Early-bird pricing has a few weeks to go and you won’t want to miss out on the hefty discount for getting in on it early!

Register here (scroll down, the registration is right on the page), and view the Twitter Challenge exercise here.

Coming soon: tips for editing comic book scripts.

Urban Fantasy Twitter Chat, GenreLitChat #3

It’s that time again! Thursday, September 4th at 8 p.m. Eastern / 5 p.m. Pacific is the next #GenreLitChat, and this time it’s urban fantasy. You can participate in this chat by sending me questions ahead of time for me to ask the panel, or simply being on Twitter and following the hashtag. While this is a moderated discussion, you’ll be free to reply and interact as normal on Twitter.

The urban fantasy group consists of: 

Mia Marshall is the RT Reviewers’ Choice Award-winning author of the Elements urban fantasy series. Before she started writing about things that don’t exist in this version of reality, she worked as a high school teacher, script supervisor, story editor, legal secretary, and day care worker. She has lived all along the US west coast and throughout the UK, where she collected an unnecessary number of degrees in literature, education, and film. These days, she lives in a small house in the Sierra Nevadas, where she is surrounded by her feline overlords.


Nicholas Kaufmann is the Bram Stoker Award-, Thriller Award-, and Shirley Jackson Award-nominated author of Dying Is My Business, Die and Stay Dead, Chasing the Dragon, Hunt at World’s End, General Slocum’s Gold, and Still Life: Nine Stories. Over the years, he worked in publishing, owned his own bookstore, managed a video store, and was a development associate for a literary agent. He lives in Brooklyn, New York with his wife and two ridiculous cats.

Linda Poitevin is the author of dark urban fantasy (The Grigori Legacy from Ace/Roc Books) and contemporary romance (self-published). Linda lives near Ottawa, Canada’s capital, and in her other life is wife, mother, friend, gardener, coffee snob, freelance writer, and zookeeper of too many pets. When she isn’t writing, Linda can usually be found in her garden or walking her dog along the river or through the woods.

Alexander Kosoris was born and raised in Thunder Bay, Ontario. He lived on residence in Toronto, Ontario while attending the Faculty of Pharmacy at the University of Toronto between 2006 and 2010. While there, he discovered his love of writing, spending much of his free time writing short stories, one of which he expanded to arrive at his first novel, Lucifer. After graduating, Alexander has moved back to Thunder Bay, where he now lives, working as a pharmacist. Whenever he gets a moment of leisure, Alexander enjoys listening to and playing music, as well as riding his bicycle.

Launched in 2009, All Things Urban Fantasy is the place where para is normal. Currently a group of five readers and bloggers, we’re dedicated to reviewing the latest books in the urban fantasy, paranormal romance, and speculative fiction genres. Participating in the chat will be Kate, who has been running ATUF for about a year now, and loves urban fantasy with a passion. 


You can use the TWUBS link or just follow the hashtag on Twitter. Also, please feel free to email me questions you would like me to ask the panelists. 

I look forward to seeing you at 8 p.m. Eastern / 5 p.m. Pacific on Thursday, September 4th!


GenreLitChat #2: Crime and Thriller–The Storify Transcript

Hi, all! You may remember that Twitter chat from 22 May 2014, which you can learn more about here. If you missed it (or if you just want to relive all the glory) you can find the Storify transcript below. Note that I had some glitchiness with getting this to work, so if you happen to notice some missing tweets, feel free to link to them in the comments.

Enjoy!


GenreLitChat #2: Crime and Thriller

We’re two weeks away from the next #GenreLitChat, and this time it’s a crime! The lineup:

What is #GenreLitChat? It’s an occasional Twitter chat with writers on the state of genre, and how their work does–or doesn’t–fit. Learn about new books! Ask authors questions! Crack open a beer! Well, I guess that last part’s optional, but please feel free. 

The date of this thriller and crime Twitter chat is Thursday, May 22nd at 8:00 p.m. EDT / 5:00 p.m. PDTWhen you join the chat, you can use this page (http://twubs.com/GenreLitChat) which will focus only on the hashtag, and even automatically insert the hashtag for you if you ask questions or reply. Alternatively, you can follow the hashtag #GenreLitChat right on Twitter, but make sure you use the hashtag or your questions and comments may be missed!

You can send questions to me, the moderator, during the chat (@BeverlyBambury). You are also encouraged to send questions ahead of time to beverly@beverlybambury.com and I’ll add the best ones to the list. 

Questions? Email me or ask in the comments. Hope to see you during #GenreLitChat in two weeks!

How to Handle Social Media Missteps: Book Marketing without B.S. #9

Twitter is often an important tool in the writer’s networking arsenal. It’s fast, it’s short, it’s connected. Author Peter V. Brett was reminded last week that those strengths are also its obstacles. Today’s blog post is to illustrate that being careful how you compose tweets about controversial or sensitive topics makes a difference, and how you handle it when you misstep makes an even bigger difference. (And if you’re active and engaged, it is likely that you will at some point make a social media mistake.)

A Social Media Problem is Born

Last week’s genre author twitterstorm was set off when Peter retweeted the following:

How did you read this tweet? Some people took it as he intended (more on that later), but many, many people took Peter to mean any number of things like “It’s not fair I can’t have more rape without people complaining about it” to “I am making light of a serious topic” to many other things, none of which he intended. It should be noted that Peter has had some controversy about rape in his novels before too, so–fairly or not–he may already have people feeling unsure about his sensitivity.

So he didn’t mean it? You’d think I was just taking his word for it; but,  here is his next tweet, posted just a minute after the first one:

If you saw the second tweet, you’d likely get a meaning closer to what Peter intended; but, the problem with Twitter is that the tweets flow by fast and furious, and seeing one is never a guarantee someone will see the next one. I am guilty of dividing thoughts up into two tweets sometimes, so I can understand why it would happen. The low character count feels too limiting sometimes; but, this is a lesson to us all that a complete thought in one tweet is a best practice, especially when it’s a sensitive topic such as rape. So what can you do to prevent this on the front end?

Stop and Think

While Peter’s intention was good, much like editing in your writing, his meaning would have been much clearer if his second tweet had been his first tweet, and there had never been a second tweet at all. Usually you can be casual on Twitter, but when sharing (again, especially sensitive material,) it is best that you take a moment and consider how it might look to someone else. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and imagine. If you’re creating  and writing, this should be something you already do anyway.

It is important to always remember that the only thing we’re in control of as is what we say. We can not control how others perceive what we’ve written, how they’ll feel about it, or what they’ll say about it. 

Best Way to Handle a Social Media Problem

Problems like Peter’s really can happen to anyone. The internet moves so much faster than you could ever anticipate, and it seems bad news travels further and faster than good news. We all have the potential to tweet something that either we should just plain not have said at all, or more commonly, that will be taken in a different way than intended. Maybe you’ll realize it right away and delete it in time. Maybe you won’t. And if you don’t, and you want to handle it with grace, dignity, and humility. In my estimation, Peter handled this (mostly) well. What lessons can you draw? Here is what he did right:

His response was swift
Instead of letting it fester without comment (one of the worst things you can do with your “brand”,) he replied quickly and profusely. No one could doubt Peter was doing his best to manage the issue in a timely manner.

He stayed calm and rational
He got a defensive at a few points (more on this and the language of apology later), but given the harshness of some people’s reactions and how fast things were moving, I can understand his feeling how he did about it. Overall he kept it sane and decent. He never called names, he never got into any nastiness beyond initial defensiveness.

He expressed remorse
He apologized numerous times and admitted he could have done better and that he understood the other people’s points of view.

He had humility
Even to defenders, Peter said he understood how the tweet was interpreted and expressed that he wished he could have handled things differently. He could have just soaked up his numerous supporters’ comments and used them to say “See? You people who misinterpreted this are just plain wrong!” but, he did better than that. Here is a good example:


Finally, he put his money to work by donating to a related charity

This was a class act kind of a move, and can never hurt.

What should you do if you have a social media problem?


React quickly, calmly, and evenly as possible
You’ll undoubtedly be feeling emotions such as defensiveness, anger, annoyance, and embarrassment; but, from a public relations standpoint you have to put those on the back burner. If you are not able to do that–at least in writing–ask a trusted friend for help in composing your response.

Also, take responsibility completely
That’s the one area Peter could have improved on. His apologies were touched with the “I apologize to those who took my comment that way” and ” I apologize for wording that could be interpreted as such”. This (I assume unintentionally) serves to put some of the responsibility back on the offended party, and also doesn’t indicate any sympathy for the people who were upset–which is important in smoothing over feelings. Better phrasing would have been something along the lines of, “To those I hurt by my earlier tweet, I offer my apologies. I was not careful in composing my earlier RT. I’ll do better in the future.” It removes the “if you took it wrong” language, and turns it into “I am 100% accountable” language. Even if you don’t fully feel that way on the emotional level, that’s how you apologize. That’s how you take responsibility.

I should also say that I don’t mean to pick on Peter. He did well on the spot and under a lot of pressure. He is not trained in PR and let’s be real: writers don’t have the money to have staff to help with this sort of thing. I was simply inspired to write about it to help all of you understand how easily this might happen to you, and more importantly how to handle your own social media problem situations as they come up.

I hope you found this useful. I’d be interested to see other situations you think were handled well (or handled badly) if you want to share them in the comments.


Book Marketing without B.S. is a weekly publicity and marketing advice column for writers and other creators who prefer a realistic, clear, and no-nonsense approach. My goal is to help you cut through the bullshit with direct, understandable advice you won’t be embarrassed to follow. 


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Inspiration vs Newsjacking: Book Marketing without B.S. #6

Book Marketing without B.S. is a weekly publicity and marketing advice column for writers and other creators who prefer a realistic, clear, and no-nonsense approach. My goal is to help you cut through the bullshit with direct, understandable advice you won’t be embarrassed to follow. Send your questions to beverly@beverlybambury.com.


My client, writer Chris Irvin, did a blog post about the assassinated Mexican physician and politician Maria Santos Gorrostieta, which inspired his novella, Federales. He was concerned that the post might be interpreted as using a tragedy for his own marketing benefit. I advised that the post was just fine, and that the real problem were things such as the infamous Cairo tweet from Kenneth Cole. Sure, Kenneth Cole got a lot of attention; but, the majority of it was bad, and despite what you may have heard, bad publicity is not as good for your company as good publicity. 

It’s not hard to learn more about this concept of marketing tie-ins to tragedy or events. In general, this is often called “newsjacking”, a term coined by David Meerman Scott. Scott does not advocate the use of tragedy in this way; however, and even spoke out against marketers making light of Hurricane Sandy, which you can see in the comments of this controversial HubSpot blog post.

I admit I don’t see how newsjacking could ever be a positive term. I think appending “-jacking” onto something creates a negative connotation. So, what is good newsjacking, then? Why is it a thing? This blog post was a helpful run-down of positives and negatives to watch out for. Finally, if you’re interested, it may be useful to also read Danny Brown’s reply to the HubSpot post and its replies. .

Consensus is definitely on the side of staying empathetic, kind, ethical, and…. well… classy. Of course there still seem to be people who have no problem making light of tragedy with an eye to profit. I personally find things like that distasteful and certainly the person doing the newsjacking may create a negative association for the brand or individual in the eyes of many potential customers. It’s risky at best, and dangerous and cruel at worst.

So did Chris newsjack in a bad way with his post about Maria Santos Gorrostieta? No, not at all. For him–and for all artists–this served as inspiration to create a bigger story, to create art. This wasn’t a casual, off-the-cuff tweet intended to drive traffic to his web site. Indeed, I think painful or tragic incidents are often the inspiration for people to create, which is a healthy, humanist response. A callous marketing effort this was not, and so I feel comfortable saying that inspiration is not newsjacking. They’re totally different things, and respectful blog posts about one’s inspiration, such as what Chris wrote, is something you should feel completely free to do. If you’re ever worried about the tone, ask a trusted (and 100% honest) associate for his or her thoughts.

What do you think about newsjacking and using tragedy to inspire art? Is there a difference? What examples have you seen (of either) that have been particularly bad, or particularly good?


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GenreLitChat #1: Storify Transcript

The first #GenreLitChat this past Thursday went well. The three authors who were on the panel (John Mantooth, Heidi Ruby Miller, and Nathan Ballingrud,) had a good time, and as the moderator I found myself surprised by how quickly the hour went. I had several questions I wish I’d had time to ask. All in all, it’s not a bad thing to be left wanting more!

If you missed it, you can check out the Storify transcript below. You can also follow the #GenreLitChat hashtag via Twitter itself, or on Twubs.

Let me know what you think in the comments, and thank you–as always–for reading.


#GenreLitChat: An Occasional Twitter Chat about Genre

Introducing #GenreLitChat, an occasional Twitter chat with writers on the state of genre, and how their work does–or doesn’t–fit.

The kickoff chat is just in time for your holiday book buying needs! It’s this Thursday, December 5th at 8:30 p.m. EST/5:30 p.m. PST with John Mantooth, author of The Year of the Storm (Berkley/Penguin), Heidi Ruby Miller, author of Green Shift (Raw Dog Screaming Press), and Nathan Ballingrud, author of short story collection North American Lake Monsters (Small Beer Press).

When you join the chat, you can use this page (http://twubs.com/GenreLitChat) which will focus only on the hashtag, and even automatically insert the hashtag for you if you ask questions or reply.
Alternatively, you can follow the hashtag #GenreLitChat right on Twitter, but make sure you use the hashtag or your questions and comments may be missed!

You can send questions to me, the moderator, during the chat (@BeverlyBambury). You are also encouraged to send questions ahead of time to beverly@beverlybambury.com and I’ll add the best ones to the list.

Questions? Email me or ask in the comments. Hope to see you during #GenreLitChat in a couple of days!

Social Media for the Misanthropic and the Anti-Social: Book Marketing without B.S. #2

Book Marketing without B.S. is a weekly publicity and marketing advice column for writers and other creators who prefer a realistic, clear, and no-nonsense approach. My goal is to help you cut through the bullshit with direct, understandable advice you won’t be embarrassed to follow. Send your questions to beverly@beverlybambury.com.


One of the best things about being a publicist, is that I get to do all the social, extrovert, asking-for-things work that my clients usually don’t want to do. I get to give them more time to create, and take away the stress of putting themselves directly out there. Also, given that my clients are overwhelmingly writers of dark fiction of some kind or another, they’re frequently put off by other social media tone and content. It’s too perky and bubbly. It doesn’t feel genuine.

In last week’s column about why you shouldn’t purchase followers, I looked briefly at the question of “So how do I build audience?” and the imagined comment of “But, I’m dark and serious and not that social. Plus I don’t sell glasses. This advice sucks!” I get into the topic a little there, and in this post I offer you a few examples of people whose social media skills I admire.

Note that for this article I am only focusing on Twitter. The reason I am not discussing Facebook more is that Facebook’s brand pages consistently decrease in direct benefit, and it’s a topic for another day. That said, the general ideas still apply for Facebook or anywhere else. If you have questions, leave a comment and I’ll reply to it as soon as I can.


There are a number of people whose technique I admire, but I am going to have you take a look at three specific people: Chuck Wendig, Caitlin Kittredge, and Sam Sykes. All three of these writers share common characteristics that have served them well on Twitter.

1 – They don’t focus completely on their own work. They do sometimes post about their work or ask us to buy their books. That’s perfectly fine and to be expected. Notice though, that it’s overall uncommon. Every tweet or every other tweet, or even every tenth tweet doesn’t contain promotional language. As I’ve said before (and based on what I see on twitter every day, I have to keep saying it over again!) you should focus on being an integrated, complete person on social media. This is our new town square. Do you really want to talk to someone or hang out with someone that says the same thing over and over again? You do? Well, you’re in the minority, ya big weirdo.

2 – They are highly responsive. They don’t reply to everyone who tweets at them, and really, given the amount of stuff coming at them every day there’s no way that they could; but, they do respond often. They interact. They are social. If you ignore every tweet that comes at you and you just broadcast and don’t use social media for its intended purpose of interaction, you’re missing out. Note: sometimes if you’re really famous already you can get away without bothering to reply. Many brands and many celebrities can post announcement-only and that works for them; but they were already famous. You can’t do that. You’re not famous. (Unless you are, in which case, thanks for reading this far, famous person!)

3 – They use their own voices. They swear, they grumble, they don’t use bubbly, insincere language. Once again, they are complete, integrated human beings who sometimes talk about their personal lives, sometimes what they’re reading, what they’re watching, what they’re doing, sometimes about community issues, and sometimes about other people’s work. (See #4.)

4 – They build community by sharing the work of others. These people also tweet about other people’s work. They understand that a strong community and strong sense of teamwork are their own important mental and social benefit. They also understand that it helps sell more books than isolating themselves and acting like they’re the only game in town. Remember (and this may be the most important takeaway) word of mouth has to come from other people. If it comes from you, it’s as good as useless. So keep sharing the work of others, keep being a member of a community, lead by helping others up and not by cutting them down.

So what can you, personally, do? I really like lists, so let’s have another list.

1 – Listen.

2 – Reply to people when it’s relevant, and about what they’re into. If you reply to push your work you’ve already failed.

3 – Listen.

4 – Share an appropriate amount. Aside from replies, you shouldn’t tweet so much that people’s feeds are overwhelmed. And anyway, what do you have to say that’s so important? Don’t be afraid to be quiet on the original Twitter content if you’re interacting frequently with others. Naturally, if you think of something interesting, fun, or relevant to say, then by all means, say it!

5 – Follow others, even if they do not follow you back. Yes. Read that again. You can follow people even if they don’t follow you back. Sometimes you may want to tidy your list, and that’s cool. I unfollow people if it’s just not working for me; but, if you like what someone is saying, or you like their work, just keep following even if they don’t follow you back. Of the people I list in this article, only one follows me back, and that’s just fine. I like what they have to say and they don’t owe it to me to follow back. If you’re really there to meet people and grow audience, being relaxed about this sort of thing is a good start. After all, if you only follow people who follow you back, what quality is your audience, anyway?

6 – Listen.

7 – Like I said in #5, quality over quantity. When you get a new follower that might be interested in reading your book, make sure you check out their feed and reply to something of theirs. Don’t tell them about your book in this tweet. Why? Because it’s already in your profile and probably one or two of your tweets. It’s completely unnecessary and redundant, and makes you look desperate. Also see the link in #8.

8 – DO NOT FOR ALL THAT IS GOOD AND HOLY USE DIRECT MESSAGES TO PROMOTE TO YOUR NEW FOLLOWERS. Read this. (And yes, this relates to that point in #7.)

9 – Share different types of content. You can share pictures, you can share links (and try to say why you think they’re interesting if you have characters with which to do so,) you can share other people’s work you think is good. And yes, sometimes share your work, too.

10 – Social skills and listening: I maaaaay have said something about listening already (maybe), but I want to reiterate, read what people are saying. Reply. Don’t make this all about you. It may seem like a paradox to say that getting people to like you is not about you, but in many ways it isn’t. Social skills may not come naturally to you, but they can definitely be learned, and if you need to do your own marketing and promotion, it’s worth your investment to really stop and look at your behaviour honestly.

So, like I said last time: you won’t have a million followers. Respect the ones you have. Cultivate them. Give them the kind of experience you want when you follow people on Twitter.


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